Unfortunately, I don't think you really get a say in it. There's either free will or there isn't. What that means for the god of love, however... I think that's something you have to figure out. I'm not sure how much I can help, except by asking pointed questions and helping you interpret your feelings on the answers.
For instance: would you be content with playing something like a matchmaker? I don't mean using the arrows, I mean getting to know people and pairing them up based on interests, hobbies, personalities, and so on? You might have a stronger foundation there to work with.