fellinara (fellinara) wrote in wiccanjournies, @ 2011-09-13 15:48:00 |
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Hi. I'm a 37 year old ordained High Priestess of Wicca who is also a full-time college student and a mom. I've been happily married for 5 years now and our daughter will be 4 years old in October.
We are currently undergoing many changes in our lives right now. 2 years ago we began buying a house from some friends of ours in a lease to own situation and it was going very well. Well, over a year ago now, (it'll be 2 years in Feb 2012) my father-in-law was injured at home painting. He was forced into an early retirement, had to fight with his health insurance provider for the surgery that 7 doctors concurred that he needed, blah blah. It was a nightmare for my in-laws. My mother-in-law is out of work as well and he was forced into an early retirement. His health care insurance takes nearly all of his retirement money so he lives on Social Security and he isn't 65 yet so he doesn't even get those full benefits.
Anyhow, long story short: we gave up buying our house to move in with them to try to keep their house out of the bankruptcy they had to do. Well, the bank wouldn't cooperate so the house will be soon in default. In August we were advised to stop paying the mortgage and have the bankruptcy amended (advised by the lawyer). See the thing is that now my husband, toddler and I are unexpectedly out of a home very soon. *sigh* My in-laws will be moving back to Boston area to live with family and we will follow them when I finish school and start over there. We'll buy a house once I land the IT job there. (I'm in Information Systems Security and the market there is great if you are job hunting.) In the meantime, we've lived over a year with my in-laws and we'll be living in our friend's house for at least a year until we get the money and job thing together to move to New England. What a mess we found ourselves in. I love my mother-in-law but we barely get along anymore. I admit I'm harboring a lot of resentment towards our situation because we were lied to regarding the situation of their house and so we were coerced into giving up ours. If they had agreed to move in with us, we wouldn't be facing foreclosure right now and scrambling to figure out how not to live on the street with a toddler. And my mother-in-law is very stressed and so more negitive aspects of her personality come out. She has become selfish and has been many times very antagonisitic towards me. It'll improve once we aren't up each others crawl all the time.
This situation has really tested my faith though. I'm in love with my husband and will be by his side even through all of this though I'm so ready for our own home and to be responsible only for just the 3 of us.
I'm looking for a ritual or series of rituals suitable for obtaining this goal and minimizing the negitive situation between my mom-in-law and I. I also need as much distance as possible from my own mother (toxic relationship) who is emotionally abusive to me. She's trying to hint around that she wants to come live with us in Boston. UM - NO! Not happening. She's trying the guilt trip now but it is only a matter of time before the abuse starts again. I may have to craft this ritual myself since there are so many personal aspects involved. If it is ok, I'll post it here once I have it complete. </ljcut>