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James T. Kirk, Captain of the starship Enterprise (captcasanova) wrote in wariscomingcom,
@ 2015-06-22 14:14:00

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damien thorn, james kirk

Damien
I think at this point you are the only male friend I have left and I need a male perspective on this situation I have found myself in. So say the Seal screws with things and you end up being the reckless, cocky and really flirty guy you used to be and you end up doing something with one of your employees you probably shouldn't have and you end up in bed with one of your best friends in the same week. And it isn't really weird but it is kind of weird? What the hell are you supposed to do in a situation like that? Because that's the situation I find myself in right now.

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_bornofajackal
2015-06-23 09:12 am UTC (link)

Hmm.. this sort of reminds me of my Yale days. I used to be slightly flirty and reckless at the time. ~~And also more beds than I can count but that might not be helpful~~ I think the term "player" or "playa" would have been an accurate description. But then this was college and that sort of thing usually goes on a lot in that type of setting anyway. So if I understand correctly, the Seal had brought back past feelings or tendencies. It did that for me too though it seems worse than yours by comparison. It was more anger in my case.

It becoming weird is natural, it often is when employees are involved. How do they feel about it? Do they feel it's a bit weird too? If they do, that's common ground. Reminds me of a situation I'd been in with someone once, except it was because of an angel instead of the Seal. We were trapped in a fake memory where we worked at a company. In this memory, Prue was my boss and we had lots of secret office flings. Just like what you see in movies. Trust me, it was very awkward for both of us when it was over. ~~We didn't regret it though~~ Uncomfortable looks, nervousness, and all that. Eventually it got less weird and became a distant memory and we dated for real, and later married.

I'm not saying that you'll end up dating one of the two people you were with. The awkward wears off, is what I mean. One option would be ignoring it til it passes. Chalking it up to yet another weird thing the Seal does and move on from it, forgetting it, letting it go. Or another way is talking to them about it til you both feel okay about it. And eventually the weirdness might subside.

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captcasanova
2015-06-23 04:48 pm UTC (link)

See, I think things with Georgina and I are going to be fine. Like, that was just a fling. There wasn't anything behind it. But I'm having a lot more trouble with what happened with Rose. It doesn't help that I'd been interested kind of before all of this happened. Like, not much, but I'd considered it.

So ignoring or talking are my choices, basically? Ignoring I can do with Georgina, talking I should do with Rose, but I get the feeling we'll do the ignoring thing too. Damn it, this is going to be hard.

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_bornofajackal
2015-06-24 10:54 am UTC (link)

Ah, I think I understand how it's a but weird now. Previous interest. That does tend to complicate things like this. Time will eventually make it fade.. but right now, it'd be needed to get through it in the present.

Well, there's also a friend of hers who was sent home, someone she was close to. I'd probably do some ignoring stuff too if someone I cared for was sent away abruptly. Actually, I have done that when it happened with me. So probably, wait a bit before jumping in to attempt talks? Give each other a chance to cool down, to process it, to breathe, probably a few days or a week or something and then try to talk it over. If you need more advice or to just talk after that, I'm always here. Or if anything else I can do to help. ~~I noticed an elevator doesn't work, so maybe I can~~

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