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Grant Ward is not a true believer (notanazi) wrote in wariscomingcom,
@ 2015-02-11 02:27:00

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alex millar, billy kaplan, bucky barnes/winter soldier, damon salvatore, elena salvatore, grant ward, sam winchester

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So, here it is. In all my life I have neer had to ask for dating advice. But how do you do Valentine's with the girl who's only just letting you back into her trust after you betrayed her, kidnapped her, killed a whole bunch of coworkers and nearly drowned two of her closest friends? Oh and then couldn't stop from being kidnapped by your insane mentor.

Cause I figure dinner and a movie won't cut it.

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stucklikeagirl
2015-02-11 04:07 am UTC (link)

~~And I thought Hal was a mess~~

Well, chocolate and flowers certainly aren't going to do it.

What does she like? That's the thing. You can't just go all generic when you're trying to make up for something that big. Think about what she likes and come up with something special that fits that. And...you know...remember that one Valentine's day isn't going to make up for all that. You're probably going to have to work at it for a while.

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	notanazi 2015-02-11 04:24 pm UTC (link)
	I have no intention of being generic with her, but she deserves amazing. She deserves perfect. I think I'll be making it up to her for years to come (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	stucklikeagirl 2015-02-11 04:26 pm UTC (link)
	Just keep in mind that amazing and perfect might mean something different for her than it would for other people. As long as you're willing to do that...that's the important thing. And she can forgive you. I mean, the bloke I used to like got me killed. And we got past it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 04:49 pm UTC (link)
	I'm willing to do that. So I'm hoping its enough. I just want her to be happy (Reply to this) (Parent)

	vagueambition 2015-02-11 04:37 am UTC (link)
	Doing something she actually enjoys might be worthwhile. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 04:27 pm UTC (link)
	She's fairly easy going with this kind of thing. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	vagueambition 2015-02-11 09:11 pm UTC (link)
	Presumably why you're asking. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	someonehasto 2015-02-11 12:35 pm UTC (link)
	Dude. Girl is crazy about you. I can already see that. But, yeah. Do something she'd like. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Damon notanazi 2015-02-11 04:28 pm UTC (link)
	You can? Even after everything? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Ward someonehasto 2015-02-13 10:33 pm UTC (link)
	While Garrett was shooting people. She ran off after you. Don't you think that tells you something? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Damon notanazi 2015-02-18 10:05 am UTC (link)
	I suppose it does I just can't imagine her loving me back (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Ward someonehasto 2015-02-18 10:34 am UTC (link)
	Oh, I remember that point, buddy. And look where I am. Pretty sure she does. Might take her a while to admit it, because of everything. Because her friends will judge her. Because you hurt her. But, she'll get there. (Reply to this) (Parent)

Ward

faceofbo
2015-02-11 01:35 pm UTC (link)

I'd avoid making it a surprise, you want to do something stable and normal but not small. Talk to her, id suggest a weekend mini break spa or something nice and relaxing intimate where you are away from distractions.

Most important get her input, she won't appreciate secrets at the moment, then throw in the little thoughtful extras, aim to make her feel special but refrain from over the top.

That said you know your girl better than me, trust yourself and talk with her.

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	Harkness notanazi 2015-02-11 04:35 pm UTC (link)
	I'm not sure why surprise is a bad thing. But I'll talk to her this time. There's a diffrence between the secrets I had and doing something nice for her. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

Ward

faceofbo
2015-02-11 04:54 pm UTC (link)

If you want to go with the mystery, then tell her you have a surprise you don't need to tell her where but do tell you want it to be a surprise. THat way if she picks up on any secrecy she knows it is just romantic.

Is about building the trust rather then being overly romantic, I appreciate the difference and so will she after the fact but before the surprise is sprung the secrecy might alarm her and put her on guard.

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	Filter. bucky 2015-02-11 04:13 pm UTC (link)
	A nice box with the ashy remains of everyone who's ever wronged her. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Filter. notanazi 2015-02-11 04:39 pm UTC (link)
	~~Actually I think her Dad has that covered~~ I was trying for something involving less death. But thanks for the idea Barnes (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Filter. bucky 2015-02-11 04:51 pm UTC (link)
	Steve wasn't crazy about it either. But I think he appreciated the thought. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Filter. notanazi 2015-02-11 05:26 pm UTC (link)
	Sure. I'll bet he appreciated the hell out of dead things ~~Did the seal knock you on the head or~~ (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	Filter. bucky 2015-02-11 06:19 pm UTC (link)
	Well he likes me, so. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	demiurge 2015-02-11 04:18 pm UTC (link)
	Well, just don't try to bring her adoptive mother who is dead in your universe in from another universe because it'll probably accidentally be a world devouring parasite-mom that nearly brings about life as we all know it and can only be stopped by the power of gay love. That's really my only advice. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	lokiofasgard 2015-02-11 04:19 pm UTC (link)
	It was a really nice several hours before you figured out what happened? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	demiurge 2015-02-11 04:22 pm UTC (link)
	You mean before she brainwashed my parents and tried to eat them? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lokiofasgard 2015-02-11 04:38 pm UTC (link)
	Yes, before then. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 04:40 pm UTC (link)
	That's advice? (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	demiurge 2015-02-11 04:41 pm UTC (link)
	Yeah, bro. It's "Don't do what I did in an effort to make your SO not mad at you". We did make up though. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 04:47 pm UTC (link)
	Well, since the closest to an apoptive mother she has is the bitch that fractured my larynx and nailed my damn foot to the floor. I think she's the last person I'd try to bring here. Not to mention last I looked I can't make portals to pull people through. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	demiurge 2015-02-11 04:51 pm UTC (link)
	I haven't been able to do it here -- or, I mean, like. I haven't tried. Because parasite monster-mom is not something I want to recreate. I can make tiny pocket dimensions though, so if you wanted a romantic get away without leaving the... horrible frozen hell hole that is Kansas, I can hook you up. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 05:22 pm UTC (link)
	I think I'm going less dramatic than a pocket dimension. But I'll keep the offer in mind (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	demiurge 2015-02-11 05:23 pm UTC (link)
	I imagine there is a balance somewhere between "box of chocolates" and a literal "whole new world", sure. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	lokiofasgard 2015-02-11 04:38 pm UTC (link)
	Girls love hell hounds. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 04:44 pm UTC (link)
	How very helpful. Asgard never stops with the helping does it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lokiofasgard 2015-02-11 04:51 pm UTC (link)
	We're a very magnanimous people. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 05:01 pm UTC (link)
	I'm not really in a joking mood when it comes to any of you (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lokiofasgard 2015-02-11 05:06 pm UTC (link)
	Ah, yes. One bad experience and you write us all off. You paint with a very broad brush, Mr. Ward. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 05:12 pm UTC (link)
	Actually. 2. In the same year. Then of course there's other you and the mass murdering. And Thor wrecking up London because Asgards problems always wind up becoming our problems. I think I'm well within my rights to have a problem with the lot of you. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lokiofasgard 2015-02-11 05:14 pm UTC (link)
	And yet, when I have a problem with all of humanity because they stole my brother, everyone gets weird about it. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-11 05:20 pm UTC (link)
	Im pretty sure your brother can decide for himsef. But honestly. I could care less who you have a problem with. Asgard could get wiped from existance, it'd be good with me. The less I have to do with you people the better off I'll be (Reply to this) (Parent)

	ex_demonbloo908 2015-02-13 12:54 am UTC (link)
	...debatable. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lokiofasgard 2015-02-13 01:04 am UTC (link)
	I loved mine! Until he betrayed me. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	ex_demonbloo908 2015-02-13 01:07 am UTC (link)
	Hell hound. Things from that general direction have a habit of doing that. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	lokiofasgard 2015-02-13 01:11 am UTC (link)
	Well, it wasn't HELL so much as it was Hel. We're norse, they're slightly more reliable. Anyway Hela is (sort of but not really) my daughter, so it seems like she should be more helpful in these matters. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	frostandsnow 2015-02-13 01:41 am UTC (link)
	Not here she's not. The pagan's got kind of bitchslapped by Lucifer. Its all about belief, and not enough believed in you guys. You kinda weakened (Reply to this) (Parent)

	youliedtome 2015-02-11 08:14 pm UTC (link)
	Actually not sure I can help on this one. It needs to come from you. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	notanazi 2015-02-13 02:26 am UTC (link)
	I was really hoping you wouldn't say something like that (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	youliedtome 2015-02-14 10:50 am UTC (link)
	Sorry. It's true, though. If it helps, I'm pretty sure she'll like anything that's planned by you. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	ex_demonbloo908 2015-02-13 12:55 am UTC (link)
	That depends on where the two of you are at. I wouldn't push it too hard if she's still trying to get a grip on what happened. I've been in her shoes before. Uh, kind of. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	Sam notanazi 2015-02-13 02:20 am UTC (link)
	She's staying over some nights. There's still a lot to work through. I know that, But its good. How'd you forgive what she put you through? (Reply to this) (Parent)