Jack/Tater
It's not too heavy, especially if you need to talk about it. I don't want to make it sound at all like I'm minimizing anything, because I think that it's terrible in your country and any country to treat people like that, and I wish it was different. I just know I've been lucky in that regard.
Uh-- I can tell Bitty with permission but we're not going to gossip, Tater. Coming out never stops? There will always be someone you have to tell or something you have to second guess. But it doesn't have to be a big deal, either. You can just go on your dates, and maybe invite him to brunch, introduce him as your boyfriend? Nobody'll make a huge deal out of it, trust me.