No need to apologize, I'm definitely aware of how things can get stupid here. And if you still don't know what you want in return, I'll just put money in your bank account, to spend on more bowties for the alpacas.
And we've planned for the wedding to be on 11/7 which is during a masquerade festival Hawke's been planning on Skyhold - so I guess masquerade is kind of the theme.