Because the evil clown in your town made people assholes. Something the people here aren't like. Which you might not know yet since you don't remember being here but Eddie should. He's got a lot of adults that he likes and trusts and was making progress.
And the person asking her what she wants to be wasn't making a life choice for her. Pushing back like you are isn't helping her because that's not at all what she was saying.
She was anxious because someone asked a question she hasn't heard before. Not because they were being an asshole.