John
Then I suggest you start, because he's really hurting right now, John. I try to be there for him but I don't know if I can help him.
Work is more important than your son? That's backwards.
If there's one thing I've learned about Dean over the years it's that he never asks for help. So if he drives across the country to see you it's because he genuinely needs you. How could you turn your back on him?