I have actually wondered that, myself. Perhaps that is why I've forgone the usual pomp and traditions in my own current romance. Courting also seems to have changed quite drastically since my time, so perhaps my changing was on account of that.
Though I can give you advice as a widower. My courtship and marriage was all very standard for the time, and I'd like to think it's what one would call a textbook case, if one were to look back on it from a historical standpoint. Should you ever need to understand the basics, or even the finer details, do let me know. I'm always willing to help a lady in need.