Sam
Well, I've got more to say, but you're obviously not listening to the important parts.
It isn't about how you feel about her. It isn't about what you think is 'appropriate friend behavior'. It's about you not seeing how she feels about you, and not giving a shit, apparently.
If it's somehow legal for George Bush to preemptively strike other countries on a hunch, I'm pretty confident that it's okay for me to hurt the feelings of a guy that is too idiotic to see that he's going to hurt my daughter.