Alistair
I don't think you should. Sometimes people come back, but not always. Let me tell you a story - my friend and I were married to people, and one day, both of our spouses disappeared. We were really upset, and there was a lot of champagne involved and at one point there was a quickie vegas wedding. People disappear all the time, Alistair, and sometimes they don't ever come. And usually once they've disappeared, they don't come back.