You must look "normal" enough to them, or be in a place where "normal" isn't exactly expected.
No, I don't think so. I mean there is no directive saying we have to go to a certain place. Basically, we're pulled through this vortex to somewhere and expected to set up a life there, or do whatever we want. We can move if we choose, but where we go isn't always the same as we might have known it before. It's pretty confusing.