Eve
You are not married! He is not your husband, he is a man. You never chose to be married. You claim that it's hardwired into you to be with Adam? You never chose. You never took him as your husband, you were given as his wife. And those times are long over, and with all the sincerity I can muster, thank God they are.
You are more than what God made you. You are what you made yourself. You have the right to choose.