There are countless neutral worlds who beg to differ with that misguided dichotomy. The First Order brings exactly what it says - order - to those who accept its help. Those worlds which cling to neutrality are of course allowed to do so; we believe that in time they will see the benefits of an alliance with the Order.
The Resistance and the Rebellion that spawned it are terrorists. I know firsthand the devastation they can cause in the name of their "greater good." This current propaganda is only further evidence of their hypocritical, politicking ways. Don't be swayed by it.