Qui-Gon | Selene
The Resistance is, unfortunately, in a position not unlike the Jedi's. Their numbers are small. They cannot afford to open in their movements or communication. Their leaders are targets of the First Order not only because of their allegiance, but because of who they are. However, it is because of the Resistance that no other planets have suffered the fate of those in the Hosnian system.
You speak of a long life, and of the luxury of leaving all of this behind. I do not find such a choice a luxury. I find it the easy way out.