As I said, I understood. I was merely explaining why I was attempting to answer your questions. Again, it wasn't my intention to be impertinent, I apologize.
As it happens, I was in a horrible war myself. So I might know much more than you would suspect.
But I hope you're able to figure out what you need. Perhaps when you're more settled, it would be nice to meet more of us from the same place. I'm fairly close to several of your friends.