This time it's not too bad. It hasn't always been so comfortable. It once made me badly insult one of the Elven commanders and then desert my post and my oaths. It was for the greater good but it wasn't much fun at the time. And it made my sister very cross with me. I'm not sure which is worse.
Early to mid-thirties is the youngest that a High Mage would marry. High Mages are supposed to concentrate on their magic first and foremost, even after they marry. Then again, most High Mages think women are subhuman, only worthy to produce magical male heirs and be decorative.