Sam | Mara
I can understand that. If you've been struggling - I lost a lot of weight, although I seem to be, well, older, but not necessarily as frail as I was at the worst of things. As far as I can tell I'm not sick now and I should be fine.
And I can get that too. It's like, it's difficult enough starting over with a life in a brand new place that's different, in small or large ways from what you're used to, and when you've done that - you've made friends, family, you want that to go as it normally should without more disruptions that are not normal.
I suppose you want that at home as well, but abnormal there doesn't usually mean gaining a decade or two over night.