Mara | Charles (Telepathy)
You're aware of the situation and you're doing what you can to make it better, right? Sometimes that's as 'on top of things' as you get.
Something tells me he's not going to react well to a repetition of the Jedi code. Which, in all fairness, is a perspective I am sympathetic towards.
The Jedi would say there is no emotion, there is peace -- but my perspective, for what it's worth - and it may not be strictly orthodox Jedi theology here - is that there's always emotion. You choose whether it controls you, or whether you control it. If it controls you - you end up acting recklessly, or endangering others because of your own perspective. If you are aware of it, but don't allow it to control you - you find peace. You can view the actions of those around you as part of something larger than just you, and then you can interact intentionally.
But I don't think you can force Erik into letting go of his anger, or force him to control it. It's something he has to come to on his own, and Force, this is more Skywalker's domain than mine. He's the one who has pulled people back from the bring of anger and destruction and has done so many times. I mean, to that end, I'll tell you what he did for me. He lived what he believed, constantly - every day, in and out. Admittedly I wasn't on the verge of destroying the entire galaxy. Rather I was determined to kill him, specifically, but he changed my mind by showing me something better. I don't know if that would work with Erik, and if it would - it's probably a long-term process, not a short-term, don't destroy Manhattan gap-filler. I don't know that it's much help
Listen, accept without trying to fix? sometimes that defuses anger as much as anything else will.