Lizzie/Darcy
You can't decide for her how she heals or handles what has happened to her. You can support her and offer advice, be there if it doesn't work, but you can't control her. And I never said that was the way to gain self worth, I'm saying she might be searching for a way that works for her. And being told it's wrong and stomping down on her attempts will only make it more difficult for you both.