anakin/eliot
I understand what you are saying, but it isn't quite the same. From the moment I met Kylo, he's been wrestling with his grief over Han. This isn't a situation where he gained this memory and I proposed soon after. It's been something he's been coping with well before we were involved, and we held off on beginning any relationship between one another for months even. I committed myself to him ages ago. I've been ready to ask for months, but I've kept pushing it off. We keep having to overcome hurdles.
And I don't want a time to come where one of us is gone and the other has to face not knowing how serious this was.