It isn't just undervalued that has been a problem. I think if you were to tell her that you still would be part of her life if I were to leave will certainly go a long way in aiding a strong bond for you two; which ultimately will help us three. But [...] the things she said and expressed to me are all founded in pains I brought on her when we built our foundation. I'm trying to change them, and was in Fillory as well, but it's old wounds. [...] That all stem from not being ready or wanting to be where she and I were in the beginning.
Is that something you'd want to talk about together or should I try to brooch the subject first to get some clarity? And is it something you are actually interested in? Yes, dear, I can.