Lou felt categorically under-equipped to help him, but she was going to do everything she could. She couldn't not try. Whatever had happened had him pretty damn shaken. She hated to see Gus like this and privately worried about how Justice was doing as well. Given the hell the other woman had looked like she'd been through that morning, Lou was willing to guess this hadn't been a picnic for either of them.
She almost hugged him. He looked like he needed a hug, but she was afraid that he'd shut her out entirely for that. "Ok. Wait. Just, for a second, can you put the two things in different groups - friendships and relationships? It sounds to me that you don't want to lose the one at the expense of the other, but stop me if I'm wrong." She didn't actually pause to let him, but it was the polite thing to say.
"It's fine for you to want more honesty in a relationship, where it's with the kind of person who can go an and on about her day and her feelings and never keep you guessing. But, Gus, if you want to maintain a friendship, you're gonna have to respect that there are other sides to people. Hell, there are more sides to you. You're not the same 'you' here and now as you are when you're working. You aren't the same 'you' at the diner as you are when you're interrogating someone, I'm sure." Thankfully, she hadn't found that out first hand.
"You have to decide what matters to you, but just because there's another side to her doesn't mean the side she shows you is a lie. It doesn't mean it's going to go away. I'm sorry that that's how it went with your ex, but it's not like that with everyone. In this case, it may just mean she's afraid of you seeing some other aspect. I mean, I really wouldn't want you seeing the kind of person I am when I hit The Experience." Yeah. That wouldn't end well. Not if he thought layers were under-dressed. This was a bad comparison. "We've all got things in our lives that we aren't proud of. Maybe she's afraid you'll start defining her by her mistakes. Those things are pretty hard to own up to, especially with someone you want to like and respect you."