» I think that risk is something Penelope gets to decide to take or not » And then you work from there » I can't tell you whether or not to have children, either, but you're also not obligated to do that if you don't want to or if you can't justify bringing someone into the world KNOWING they'll have said curse » But Penelope's an adult. If she decides not to marry you, she will. If she decides to marry you anyway, she will. » You don't HAVE to get married if you don't want to, or if you feel like you can't personally handle it now that you're dealing with this right now. » But if you call it off, make sure it's for yourself, and not for her sake.