jan/bruce.
Oh Bruce, you are talking to the wrong girl if you want me to tell you that yeah, the last time means you get to hide in a hole. It doesn't. It's a lesson, but you don't get to learn that lesson unless you realizes that yes, people are messy and complicated.
As for how you can be any different that any other scientist too focused on code and not people? Well, I did throw myself at you. Last time I checked, I'm a person.