It's terrible. That is all terrible, and I'm sorry that it happened but how he reacts to learning anything is not my responsibility. I've tried and tried and tried again to make him understand that his way is not the only one, but he doesn't listen. I forgave him for shooting me. Did he tell you that? I told him that I love him, and I forgave him, and the next day he does this. He is so bent on not trusting, on striking first that he doesn't understand that he becomes the problem we're trying to avoid.