-- It isn't fair, that we wouldn't be able to be with the ones we love. -- I tried to explain why I didn't want hatred in my life now that we're all dead, I argued with him several times about just using her name. The loss of our lives and our future doesn't matter the way I want it to. -- Too many on both sides cannot see beyond the past to prevent future pain and suffering. They would rather keep the old grudges alive and alienate loved ones or banish them than attempt to make peace or see from another's eyes. I don't understand how someone could live like that.