You could still write her letters. I I write letters or draw stupid shit sometimes to MomRach people back home or people I used to know and then I burn it. One of my friends back home was big into burning shit that makes you sad. It's not that you're getting rid of them so much as you're thinking of them and then making something pretty out of it that escapes into the air, so they're always around you but not in your head any more.