"Why do you think who you are and who I want you to be are two different things? Maybe who you want to be and who you are are two different things. I'd run from that too." Alex managed to say that without sounding judgmental or antagonistic. He really wanted to help her and he really thought he knew her. He knew a enough to know she wasn't happy with things in her life and maybe that was bleeding over into things he knew did make her happy.