Clint Barton collects women who can kick his ass and tell him to get his head out his butt, it's true. Bobbi probably really appreciates all that Kate tried to do for Clint around that time too. I'm taking her from post Secret Empire, so it was a while ago for her, Clint's a bit more of a mess, but everyone just needs to let him be a mess sometimes.
Bobbi also has mad respect for Steve, given all he can do and put up with, so she'll overlook that he has no idea who she is.
It is a tragedy, but at this point, it's probably better not to veiw Lost Girl with the eyes of 2020. <3