Not like Lancelot or a samurai. He was hardly kind. He didn't consider himself as such. At least if he were like Lancelot it would be in the way that Lancelot was, in some stories, a backstabbing friend who stole Arthur's gal.
Kylo Ren was simply a backstabber.
"There are no such thing as tractor beams," he told her. "Kidnapping is much more brutal."