“There's nothing wrong with that,” Lee says promptly. Though that's not the problem really, or at least not the biggest one. You can accept it all you want, but everyone else in the world is still apt to treat you like garbage on account of it, and she knows how what had happened in June scared him. It scared her too, but when Lee gets scared it prompts her to action — she's joked that otherwise she'd never get anything done, she's scared all the time.
“You don't have to tell it to anyone,” she says. “Most people will never know.”
— in New York, anyway, except for a small group of people who accept it with the same blase disregard they accept every other kind of deviance. It occurs to her that her dressing like a man might bother him, as it outs him too. Does it bother him? How does she ask?