Lee smiles, turns her head to nudge him lightly with her forehead. "Prepare to be very bored."
She's quiet then, thoughtful. She thinks about lighting the candles, how that had felt, if she'd liked doing it or felt uncomfortable, like something someone more qualified (a "real" woman; she is not sure if she is) should have been doing. It's something she's done before — Lee has never consistently kept Shabbat, but occasionally over the past few years has felt a need to go through the motions, lonely and homesick — but that was in the context of being alone and her doing it as opposed to someone else was a matter of necessity. Now she has got to think about it in terms of gender. Lee is the oldest born male of her generation; it was always just expected that she'd get married (to a woman) and raise her own household where her wife would do things like that, among other things.
It's liberating to not be trapped in such a rigid dichotomy she had no active choice in, but it also makes her feel slightly guilty, as if she's doing something wrong or immoral or unnatural.
Michael leading the seder has more to do with this being his home and him being older, even if by only a few years, less with him being the Man of the House. She thinks. That's fine with her, if it were the other way around she knows she'd be uncomfortable. Lee can't tell if she liked lighting the candles because it's supposed to be performed by a woman or because she just liked it; similarly she can't tell if the reason the thought of doing something like conducting a seder makes her feel panicky and edgy is because it's supposed to be performed by a man or because she just hates public speaking. It's very difficult for her to separate religion and culture and gender, and trying to navigate them all at the same time is proving as hard.
Lee figures all of that is something she will need to take time to discover. It's not going to happen overnight that she just decides how she's going to fit into her culture now and be at ease with it.
That's all right. They have time. She hopes.
"You want to start to go to temple?" She's here like all the time, she knows he's not been going.