Laura/Steve
The fact that people think it's the issue is an issue. No one remembered my birthday, or said anything when I mentioned it had been. No one said anything when Harley disappeared, who was one of my only friends, or Logan, who was the first person related to any part of me who actually seemed like he wanted to get to know me. No one's commented on any of my posts for months. But James turns up again and suddenly people remember I exist as long as it's in the context of him. If you ignore people long enough you stop mattering to them, no matter how many nice words you say in public about family.