I'm not saying not to ask questions. I try to be transparent, I want people to ask if something isn't clear. I'm trying to explain how it felt as a recent example that's easy to remember. If I'm misinterpreting things, that's great. I come from somewhere it was dangerous not to notice even tiny things like that, and as much as I've managed to adjust - I sure as hell wouldn't have been even having this conversation before a few months ago - it doesn't all just go away and it's especially not going to if I don't figure out where clashes of perspective like this are happening.