Print that out and hand it to... well, almost every fandom, ever. That annoys me so much, when something that happens once is blown away to the point where you see it in every other fic, like Owen calling Ianto "tea-boy".
As for the emo-ness, for $deity's sake, cut the man a little slack. His girlfriend was going on a murdering rampage and he'd been ordered to go execute her himself. On top of the PSTD he probably had. I'd be crying, too. Doesn't mean he cut himself every time Jack looks admiringly at an ass that isn't his.
I saw a few (four? Maybe five.) episodes of SPN, but I think I get what you're saying :D
Will you despise me if it involves Owen? Because it involves Owen. Owen has really grown on me this season, but I haven't been looking for stories about him. That said, if you've got recs, I'd love to have a look :)