"Sometimes what we want is not what is the best for us," he said, and he realized how preachy he sounded and shook his head sluggishly, noting the empty glass and reaching for the bottle again, "No, no. I mean that sometimes we don't even know what we want, and then its like right there, in front of us, and even then we don't get it. I had never even really thought about him like that," he said, as he moved to pour and refill the empty glass.