Or the other ships didn't report it, either out of embarrassment or because having their masturbation fantasies manifest as tangible holograms was not deemed a "malfunction."
As either Mike Judge or Scott Adams said, a Holodeck would be the worst invention ever, because it would be guaranteed to be the LAST invention ever. A VR joy-can that can simulate any experience you could ever want? Why the fuck would you EVER do anything else?