Howard/Tony
I hate to break this to you, kid, but you weren't being compared to the ghost of Rogers. I wasn't there but I know me... You were being compared to my failure. I don't care for failure in others and I can't stand it in myself. And not bringing him home? That was failure. Just one of many, no doubt.
If that's what you want. It's going to make for a difficult work environment, I'm sure, but we can make it work if it will make things easier on you.