I keep wondering that too. I'm used to systemic oppression sure but also much more upfront attacks by the people who wants us beat. This is beyond the pale.
That is so thoughtful you people are just too damn romantic. Though when John woke up full of bullet holes from our memory update thingy I kinda spilled the "I love you" beans when I thought he was asleep like the emotionally stunted idiot I am. He heard me.
There's no right moment for anything I think. I hope I told my kid that.