sorry for the absence
since about mid-December I've been fighting a cold that kept coming back and thinking I'll be fine and catch up when I'm better. except this week it came back five times worse and I think brought its buddy the flu with it. pretty much helpless. canceled on even seeing the two family members I have in town on Christmas because I didn't want to give an elderly lady this mess, it just might kill her. if my updates are rushed and crappy, this is why.