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bitchvent (bitchvent) wrote in rpvents,
@ 2022-05-29 21:05:00

This is partially a vent and partially a plea for advice. It's a little hard to explain without giving specific details, so bare with me please.

The scenes have been a little fluffier than I would like, but I'm willing to deal with it because I otherwise really like the lines. That's, so far, the only complaint I have about writing with this individual - except for this: We keep running into each other. We keep unknowingly responding to each other's ads and it's not until we are deep in conversation that I realize who I am talking to. And while I am not against multiple lines with the same writer - if we click - there are reasons why I am not interested in picking up anymore lines with this writer. And, thus far, I have just been honest with them whenever we run into each other like that - "Hey, it's me!" But I feel like this running into one another is not going to change any time soon and well...each time it happens, I'm less inclined to reply to the scene we already have going. Mostly because the time between responses is...slow. Very slow. And I'm fine with that normally. I would be more fine with it in this case if they did not seem to respond to my ads every time I post one.

I'm not hating on this person. I just don't want all of my lines in the same boat or coming weeks apart. And I hate that them responding to my ads kills my motivation to respond to the scene we do have. Am I off my rocker here?

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thewriter
2022-05-30 03:15 pm UTC (link)

Maybe the next time this happens, once you realize it's the same writer, tell them that it's great that they're looking for fresh line ideas, but you'd rather focus on the scenes you already have? Or offer to drop the old ones and start new ones? It doesn't really fix the slow response issue, but it would at least narrow down how many ideas you have going on with them.

It really is a shame you can't ask them why they're looking for new lines when they can barely keep up with what you have going, but I can see how that might come off as rude ): even though you just want to be open and honest about your frustration on the situation.

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bitchvent
2022-06-01 12:46 am UTC (link)

I've thought about doing that very thing - here's my problem with it though (and this 100% on me for being the way I am)... If I get into a situationship with another writer where they seem to have shiny new toy syndrome, I lose interest in writing with them very quickly. I don't necessarily lose interest in the line, but I lose my ability to trust that I will get enjoyment out of the writing with them. As soon as I get into something, they may want to move on to something else and I might lose a line that I feel invested in - if that makes sense. The idea of constantly having to switch lines with a person to feed their interest is not something that I am interested in. And I think that's why I find myself less inclined to reply to the scenes we already have going, when it appears they would like to put their time toward something else vs. what we already have going.

What they do with their time is theirs to choose. I don't hate on them for it. But if I am going to continue to knowingly write with the same writer, I'd rather be able to build something that is long lasting vs. changing every month and feeling like I can never be invested in anything we do.

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	thewriter 2022-06-01 02:05 am UTC (link)
	Uuuugh how frustrating. I do fear you're eventually going to get fed up with their crap and have a writer breakup with them. But until then, you might just have to keep tolerating their crap if you enjoy writing with them ): (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	bitchvent 2022-06-01 02:57 pm UTC (link)
	Honestly. I think I'm there. That's what being able to write it out here has shown me. And fortunately, I am not that sad about the thought of just dropping the lines right now. But obviously, I think that's because of the issue of them continuing to reply to other things and feeling like I might just be wasting time. (Reply to this) (Parent) (Thread)

	thewriter 2022-06-01 03:54 pm UTC (link)
	I hate that for you, but you're right ): It might be less stressful for you to move on. That really sucks and I know it's not a good feeling, but your mental state might be better for it in the end. (Reply to this) (Parent)

	quiteangry 2022-05-31 08:01 pm UTC (link)
	You can't imagine the level to which I feel this. (Reply to this) (Thread)

	bitchvent 2022-06-01 12:46 am UTC (link)
	It sucks so hard, doesn't it? (Reply to this) (Parent)