The irony of this situation is that people have been getting away with bad behavior for quite a while now and the second someone - justifiably - defends themselves, they get raked over the coals for being a big mean meaniehead.

I'm sorry that there are some things that are just not okay in our current cultural environment and someone finally had the audacity to point that out. Maybe if the offensive player in question would not make such an effort to be offensive, it wouldn't have needed to be said.