I don't know what caused you to post this, but it makes me sad to see it. I'm not sure what's prompted it, but I do have to say this: there are a lot of people who can't take in character conflict AT ALL. I'm not saying cyber-bullying doesn't happen in RP. It does. I've been a victim of it. However, there are also people who take any form of conflict to the extreme and freak out over it. There is a thin line here and as an RP community we need to make it clear: IC conflict is GOOD, OOC bullying is not.
That being said, to use your example above, "Frank is mean to my character, therefore Sally (as Frank's writer) is OOC bullying me", is NOT a valid conclusion. Characters shouldn't have to get along all the time. I don't get along with everyone in my life. Conflict (if handled properly) can help characters grow. Not all conflict should have to be pre-planned as life isn't pre-planned.
But again, IC conflict and OOC bullying ARE two different things. I just get tired of hearing the above example CONSTANTLY. Some people do need to learn to pull up their big girl panties.