Re: Quicklog: Bucky B/Sharon C
I'll put you in touch with some people. [That was the easy part.]
Bucky, you're answering your own questions here, you told me that the here and now is whats important, and I'm saying of course it is but so are shared experiences. You are lacking in shared experiences with both of them, and they are lacking in shared experiences with you. Do you understand what I'm saying to you?
[She felt bad for him, she did - she wasn't sure if she could help, it wasn't easy. She struggled with it all the time, maybe in different ways and for different reasons, but she was hearing what he was saying.]
You're not the same guy you used to be, but he's not the same guy you remember either. And you are not the same guy he knows. You can't expect it to be the same. But you can try and see if it could be something different.
[Sharon did, in fact, know that Bucky was a bit of a shit. Which was why she was surprised he wasn't more pissed at (or around) her at the moment. She was stating the obvious, or what she hoped was obvious. And that was never fun for anyone to listen to. But just where Bucky was an asshole, she was practical. As often as she could be.]
My guess is no, you didn't put any energy into seeing her as another person. [And she was also honest.]
She can't be the same woman you knew, and Steve can't be the same man. You can't ask that of anyone, in fact you would never ask someone to be someone else. I know it might be hard to separate, but you have to. You must.
But nothing is stopping you from rectifying the situation either. Stop worrying about if you can help them, or fix things, or make things better. Start working on getting to know them as people and the rest might come naturally. Or maybe it won't, maybe its always going to be too different. Or its always going to be tense. You won't know until you try. And try small for a while. And frankly, work on you. Fix Bucky for a while. No harm in that.