Re: louis d/penny r
[...] He doesn't want a completely different version of your sister. He wants to be the version of himself that she'd be willing to make the effort for. He doesn't see anything wrong with what she wants or needs. He's killing himself trying to figure out how to be good enough for her.
Now I think that's horse shit from where I'm sitting, but who cares about where I'm sitting?
Cris ain't perfect by a long shot, but who is? He's a good guy, with a huge heart. And [...] A lot of emotions. He is worthy enough to make the effort for, and more. I believe him when he tells me your sister is worth waiting for, but so is he. And now all I'm hearing from you are the things he needs to change or do, and if that's all he's hearing from anyone? No wonder he's feeling like shit.
But this goes both ways, she wants space? She's got to take it. And mean it. Yeah, he needs to give it to her, but maybe she ain't real good at taking it as far as I can tell either. I don't see a lot of boundaries from either one of them.
I don't know what is being decided between them, maybe this whole conversation is moot and they'll come back all sorted and fine, or way worse than before. Either way, no matter what happens with those two, or how mad you are or if the patience with him is out the window just...Don't give up on him. He'd never give up on you.
And I know the hollering gets old real fast, but I'm real sick of that man feeling like he needs to holler to be heard. Even by me. And I'm real sick of him feeling like he needs to somehow be better, or be good, or something more. Because he is good and worth the god damn world.