Re: Call: Penny R/Cris M
You're intense, honey. Everything you do you do with intensity. It's a good trait, it's who you are. Don't change it. But she's probably going to pressure herself. Just the phrase, 'I'll wait for you,' is enough to put too much pressure on some people who pressure themselves. Even if you were as calm as can be when you said it. It's all in how she's going to choose to receive it. You can't control that. You can't control each aspect of the conversation. That's why you got to be honest instead of trying to plan for what you think might be the best possible outcome. This ain't a strategy session, there ain't no strategy except you tell her how you feel, and what you can give. And it's up to her to decide how she feels and what she can give. If the two match up, that's okay. If they don't, it's gonna hurt. But you can't talk around it in circles.
And you can't compromise yourself for it. You don't want to change her, you can't change you. And you can't just ignore the parts of what I'm saying that are about you. No more dodging those weepy sentiments from me, because they're true, and the more you dodge them, the more you need to hear them, and the more I'm going to say them until you believe them.