Re: Call: Penny R/Cris M
[She thinks it over, it's a big question. And she gives it real thought.] I think it's an awful lot of responsibility to expect it all the time. But I think when it counts they should, yes. But what I meant was I don't see an awful lot of balancing happening here, honey. I see an awful lot of if happening. If you'd wait longer or expect less maybe things would be okay. Or if she'd understand that you'd do any of that... But that isn't fair. You say you just want her, whatever that means but she doesn't even seem to know what that means yet.
The scales aren't balanced. Maybe sometimes they are. I don't know. But this ain't sustainable, you know that. You can't just feel like this all the time forever and say it's okay because you love her. You can't live in this fear of losing all the time, and she can't be expected to fix that when she doesn't know what she's sure of to begin with.
She cares about you, honey. I know she does or she wouldn't worry so much about you. But is that ever enough? It ain't fair that it might not be enough. But you and me have been through it before, and we know there's more to it than just caring and loving. There's always going to be more to it than that. You're going to have a lot more to work out down the road, this isn't going to get easier just because she makes up her mind, or you decide to wait forever for a girl who just might not ever be ready. None of this is wrong, or bad. Neither of you are bad. But none of this is fair to her, and her mixed up feelings. But honey, you gotta start thinking if it's fair to you at all. Because from where I'm sitting, it ain't.