tbf, I've always sucked at friends and appropriate social skills, so, I don't blame her. I mean, even if I didn't suck at friends, I wouldn't. I know I'm a jackass.
Wow, I wonder which one is true???
Look, I'll tell you how it was with me. I would've loved it if someone just asked how I was doing. No healing processes imposed, just a 'hey, how're you doing?' If they want to talk about it, it'll come up. Your job, as a friend, is to just be there, right?