No it wouldn't surprise me in the least. People usually do when they're pinned down to a partner. You acquire the mundanities.
Hedonism is underrated. Far too many people enjoy self-denial these days.
Realism can mean anything to any man. You need to see more of people's good sides to get the balance. People will often surprise you. I've met those that have done terrible things and have families and kindnesses that you wouldn't believe on first blush.
I didn't much go in for uniform. Poly-blend, mostly. And I was young, Captain. Most of us aren't sure what we want when young, other than something different.